College: Stigmas with Relationships
Relationships throughout your life have some sort of impact of you, regardless of age, and one is not like the other. Once in college, relationships can be one thing for someone, but it can also be something completely different for someone else. The meaning of being in a relationship in college can be important and key for some, but something someone else completely avoids. And contrary to belief, being in a relationship isn’t as bad as some make it out to be.
Sure, college is supposed to be 4 years of pure, unadulterated, fun experimentation, and only be that. Joined with that idea is also that being single is the way to go, which isn’t always the case. Everyone that I talk to who is in college always say that no one should be in a relationship with someone while in college for many reasons, but for me, I don’t see the issue. My best friend started dating a guy early on in the year she started her freshmen year, and to me she seems perfectly fine, maybe even better.
My best friend, who I’ll call Bean, just started college this year. She was terrified to leave, wasn’t sure about what to expect, basically just scared. She would always talk to me about how the boys at our school were terrible boys, because they all had a very specific, which a lot of the girls and/or boys did not fit in, including she and I. We would always be talking about how we didn’t need any boys in our life, which is true, but at the same time we always wanted some boy to make us feel good. After starting her freshmen year, Bean found a boy, finally. When she first started telling me about him, she would go on about how he made her feel amazing, emotionally, and would never stop talking about him. Ever….I’m serious. But when they actually labeled each other as boyfriend girlfriend, I saw a side of Bean I have never seen before. Sure, I’ve seen her happy, confident, strong, etc but whenever I would talk to her, she sounded so different. She sounded so happy and that’s when I realized that the whole stigma with being in a relationship while in college was totally bullshit. If both parties are willing, happy, etc, then what harm is it doing? Bean and her boy have been going strong for 5 months now, and I’ve never seen her more happy, and true to herself.
In the end, do whatever makes you happy, but the only thing I ask is to not be too judgmental about relationships before you try it out yourself.
I remain yours,